“I’d like to …
- Live a healthy and active lifestyle
- Have control of my finances
- Improve my attitude
- Become a better leader
- Be a better spouse/partner
- Parent my children well
- Be well read
- Improve the quality of my relationships
- Learn to play a musical instrument well
- Make a bigger contribution with my life”
Have you ever heard someone make a statement like this? Perhaps you’ve even made a similar statement yourself. I have.
Whenever I hear statements like these, either from others or from myself, the first thought that pops into my head is, “Then start doing what that type of person does”.
|If you’d like to:||Then START doing what:|
|Live a healthy and active lifestyle||Healthy people do|
|Become a better leader||Good leaders do|
|Improve your attitude||People with good attitudes do|
|Be a better spouse/partner||People in solid committed relationships do|
|Have control of your finances||Financially stable people do|
|Parent your children well||Good parents do|
|Improve the quality of your relationships||People with deep friendships do|
|Make a bigger contribution with your life||People who are making a difference with their lives do|
The second thought that comes to mind when I think about something I’d like to be doing, is to stop doing things that would take me in the opposite direction.
|If you’d like to:||Then STOP doing what:|
|Live a healthy and active lifestyle||Couch potatoes do|
|Become a better leader||Bad leaders do|
|Improve your attitude||People with bad attitudes do|
|Be a better spouse/partner||People who devalue committed relationships do|
|Have control of your finances||Broke people do|
|Parent your children well||Bad parents do|
|Improve the quality of your relationships||People with poor relationships do|
|Make a bigger contribution with your life||Apathetic or indifferent people do|
No matter what it is we want to achieve, there are healthy patterns of behavior that will get us there. Likewise, there are other behavior patterns that will lead us in the opposite direction from where we want to be. We are fortunate to be able to observe both types of patters in others, so that we can adjust our own behaviors to help us get the results we want.
Is there a goal or positive trait you’d like to develop in your life? If so, look at others who exemplify that trait, find out what behaviors they routinely follow that brings that trait about in their life, and then put those behaviors into practice in your own life. Also be on the lookout for examples of the behaviors that are contrary to where you want to go. Avoid those.
Examples abound. We only have to look for them; and learn from them as well.