“Time magnifies the margin between success and failure. It will multiply whatever you feed it. Good habits make time your ally. Bad habits make time your enemy.” ~James Clear
While I was listening James Clear’s book Atomic Habits last week, I heard him mention the quote above about time magnifying whatever you feed it. We all know this is true, but this quote really resonated with me with the realization that those habit we continuously do over time, no matter how small, will have an impact.
Think of things like saving a percentage of every paycheck for retirement, smoking a pack of cigarettes every day, or exercising 30 minutes a day. While theses habits may seem small and inconsequential in the moment, the compounding effect they have over time can be significant. And based on what the habit is, those effects can be positive or negative.
I’ve been thinking about the habits I have lately, and those I’d like to start, and where they can take me. Some of the habits I have are intentional, and I’m excited about the impact they’ve had on my life. If I’m being honest, I have other habits that are unintentional, meaning I didn’t set out to put them in place, but rather I’ve just allowed them to develop. Most of these habits are borne out of mental laziness and don’t really yield the type of results I’d like to get.
Being aware of our habits (the good as well as the not so good) is a great way to make sure what we do over a large arch of time is actually leading us somewhere we want to go. Whether we’re aware or not, as James Clear stated, time will multiply whatever we feed it. Let’s make sure we’re making time our ally.
My sister and I were texting earlier this week about the nice sunny weather we were having. I suggested we get together for a nice walk one of these upcoming sunny mornings. She agreed. Not only that, her following text showed me her level of commitment, “Let’s just pick a day, or it won’t happen!!”
I couldn’t have agreed more.
When there is something we want to do, the best way to ensure that it actually happens is to just pick a day and get it on the calendar. It’s not difficult. Once you decided you’re committed to making it happen, open up the calendar and select a date and time that works. It really is that simple. A specific date and time equals commitment. “Someday” does not.
I’m looking forward to our scheduled walk with my sister this Saturday morning! We just picked a day.
Earlier this week we bought a new washer and drier. The repair man told us that the bearings on our old washer had gone out, and we’d be better off getting a new washer versus replacing this one. Initially, we were thinking we’d hold off getting a replacement until May, which would align well with a home improvement project we have scheduled. However, after the machine continued to get worse, we decided the best option would be to replace it now, on our own timeline.
My wife and I both agreed that as long as we kept using the rapidly deteriorating machine, we ran an ever-increasing risk of it failing in the middle of a load of wash. I don’t know what your experience has been, but appliance failures never seem to occur at a convenient time, and they usually generate unneeded stress and inconvenience. Especially if we knew in advance that a failure was imminent.
We decided that, since we knew we needed to replace the washer, we should do it on a timeframe that is convenient for us versus letting the machine dictate a less convenient timeframe via a massive failure.
I think there are a lot of things in life that we can address on our own timeframe, versus waiting for a failure to determine our timeframe for taking corrective action. These things can range from appliance replacements to adopting a healthier lifestyle to maintaining relationships and beyond.
Let’s be aware of the areas in our lives where we can take action to mitigate unnecessary risks and damage, versus waiting for things to blow up before they get our attention. And when we become aware of these areas, let’s actually take the necessary action when it’s time to act.
Our house has been feeling rather full, in a cluttered since lately, so a couple of weekends ago, my wife and I went through several closets and rooms and got rid of stuff we no longer use. It was amazing how much stuff we had that fell into that category! What’s even more interesting is that I don’t even miss a single thing I got rid of.
What I do enjoy, much more than the exiled stuff, is the free space I have in rooms, closets, bookshelves, and cabinets. There’s such a calming feeling when every inch of a bookshelf isn’t stuffed full of books I’ll likely never read again. Likewise, a closet with much available space is much more fun to interact with than one that’s jammed full of unused clothing that obscures the clothes I actually do wear.
It’s hard to believe that a carload full of stuff taken to Goodwill can have such a positive impact on my surroundings.
Are there any items you know you’ll no longer use that you need to get rid of or give to someone else who can use them? If so, I encourage you to do it as soon as possible. Not only will you enjoy interacting with your newly uncluttered space, you will most likely not even miss the times you get rid of.
“The more you love in life, the more life has to offer.” ~ Lee (my bass instructor)
During a bass lesson this week with my instructor Lee, he mentioned how limiting your exposure to only one specific type of music holds you back from new perspectives and ideas that can be applied to your own music style. His example made a lot of sense. If I only listen to say, country music (which I happen to like) then I will only experience music through that lens. My playing will come to only sound like what I hear in country songs, and I won’t have the opportunity to learn and apply ideas from other music genres. Lee’s comment resonated with me, not only in the musical context, but in the larger context of a life well lived.
Imagine for a minute that the only food you absolutely loved was pizza. Now imagine that you ate pizza as often as you could because you loved it so much, but when you couldn’t have pizza, you were disappointed in the alternative. Yes, I know there are a lot of different varieties of pizza toppings to keep interesting for a long time, but how limiting to think that of all the food choices available to you, that you would be disappointed with anything that wasn’t the single food you loved.
I think we can also be narrow in our love for a number of things beyond food and music, such as
Areas of interest
Types of books
Topics of conversation
How we use our gifts and talents
How we spend our time
Seasons of the calendar
Seasons of life
Consider your capacity to love broadly in the topics listed above or others you’re thinking of that weren’t on the list. The more that we love, be it people places or things, the more opportunities we have for our lives to intersect with those things we love. I for one, am eager to live a life full of intersections with the things I love.
Gyms in Oregon have been closed due to COVID-19 restrictions since sometime in November. This has been disappointing because for years, I’ve been in the habit of going to the gym to exercise first thing every morning. It’s a nice way to start my mornings and stets a positive tone for the rest of the day.
Unfortunately, I hadn’t found a substitute for my morning gym routine, other than walking a few times a day. However, with all the emotionally heavy events that occurred in the US in December and January, I knew that I had to come up with a solution.
Since I don’t have a bunch of weights and exercise equipment at home, I started looking for options that use your body weight as resistance. Fortunately, there are plenty of possibilities, so I created an exercise plan and, starting this week, have been back in the habit of exercising first thing in the morning! I’ve enjoyed being back in the habit, and know it will be a good alternative until the gyms finally reopen.
Although it took me long enough, I’m thankful I finally caused something to happen to get me back in an exercise routine, instead of sitting around waiting for someone ese to decide it’s time to reopen the gyms in Oregon.
If there’s something you want or need, don’t sit and wait for someone else to make it happen for you. Decide what action YOU need to take to bring it about, and then take that action!
Why should we wait on someone else’s timeline when we can decide to create our own?
2021 looks promising, although it did start off a little bumpy. Since we’ll soon be getting back to life that includes more events and interactions with others, it’s important to remember that we are the ones who decide what events we allow on our calendars.
When you’re considering scheduling an event, make sure you’re not doing it out of a false sense of obligation, or because you feel you can’t say, “No” to something you really have no interest in doing.
I would argue that our time is more valuable than money, because we can always get more money. That’s is something we can’t do with time. The limit on a day is 24 hours, we can’t get more. The only choice we have is how we’ll spend the finite amount of time we’ve been given. Therefore, we need to make sure that it is our priorities that fill our calendars in 2021, not someone elses.
With COIVD-related restrictions and choices an omnipresent reality of the 2020 holiday season, it’s easy to become frustrated by how abnormal everything is this year. While it’s true that things look different this year, I want to encourage you that this is not how Christmas, or any other holiday, will look forever more. Remember that this current state is indeed temporary. Before we know it, we will be celebrating holidays with family and friends again.
My pastor signs all his emails with a phrase that I think is especially fitting for this year, “Believing the best is yet to come”. I think that true. We only have to be willing to cast our gaze beyond what’s happening today.
“But look at you, with the gift of memory. You can time travel to the good stuff just by closing your eyes & breathing.” Lin-Manuel Miranda – “Gmorning, Gnight!: Little Pep Talks for Me & You”
I’m amazed at the number of memories each of us can carry between our ears. What’s more amazing, is how quickly we can recall our favorite memories. Within nanoseconds, we can be transported to an event, a person, or a place in time. Lin-Manuel is right, our memories are indeed a form of time travel.
I think the recalling of memories is best done in the in the company of others with the same shared experience. To time travel with others via fond memories is a great blessing. The only thing more pleasing than recalling fond memories, is creating what will become fond memories with others.
Let’s make sure that as we’re traveling through life, were constantly doing both: recalling our fondest memories in the company of others, and creating some new ones as well.
Last week my wife and I spent some time at the beach in Bandon Oregon. The weather was unseasonably sunny warm for the Oregon coast in late November. It was beautiful!
While in Bandon, we spent a lot of time walking on the beach. One thing to be mindful of at the beach is the tide. When the tide is out, there is so much to see and so much more beach available to walk on. However, when the tide comes in, what’s available to explore and the volume of beach to walk on is significantly diminished. We experienced that during high tide, when parts of the shoreline we walked during low tide were no longer accessible once the tide came in. Not to worry. We simply looked at our options, adjusted our high-tide walk and had a great time.
Our experience with the tides in Bandon made me think how we often have high tides in our lives; when things change and what was once a normal part of our life is no longer available. Sometimes these high tides are expected. Other times they’re not. Regardless, we get to choose how we respond to them. We can be angry and complain about what’s not available, or we can look with gratitude at what we still have available to us, make adjustments, and move forward.
That’s great news, because even when the tide comes in (as my recent walk on the beach reminded me) there are still plenty of options available to us. We just need to see them.