“The best way to succeed in life is to act on the advice you give others.” ~ Unknown
Have you ever observed a behavior in another person and found yourself either thinking, or actually telling them, how you feel they could have better-handled the situation? If so, here’s a news flash for you (and for me as well!): Unless someone asks you for your opinion, they aren’t interested in hearing your advice.
I don’t normally appreciate unsolicited advice from others, so why would I think someone else would be receptive to unsolicited advice from me?
My best option is to take my own advice and work on myself versus trying to fix others. Because ultimately, the only person I have control over… is me.
It’s so easy to see or hear something about another person and quickly come the conclusion that “they’re a jerk!” or “inconsiderate”, or any number of unflattering things, when we really don’t know what they might be carrying in their own life.
Maybe they’re dealing with:
- An illness
- An ill loved one
- A terminal diagnosis
- Lack of affection or kind words from others
The point is, since we don’t really know what’s going on in the lives of those around us, the kind thing would be to extend grace to others instead of ill-informed snap judgments. Because wouldn’t we all appreciate that from others?
I like working to improve different areas of my life. Whether it’s learning a skill, interacting with others, maintaining healthy habits, or following the teachings of Jesus, there are so many opportunities to get better every day. I find that encouraging!
However, occasionally (actually, more often than I’d like to admit) I find myself acting in a way that is contrary to the improvements I’m trying to make. To keep from feeling frustrated and defeated when this happens, I remind myself that although I missed the mark this time, I will do better next time.
I’m so grateful that missing the mark doesn’t condemn us to forever-failure status. We have so many opportunities to do better, because there is always a “next time” right around the corner.
If you’re working to make improvements in your life, but find you’ve been missing the mark, that’s OK! Simply think about what hitting the mark would look like, and commit to doing that the next time.
Several years ago I got a birthday card from my co-workers. It was a nice card filled with kind words of birthday cheer. Of all the notes written, there was one encouraging message that really stood out. It simply read, “Make the most of the next 12 months, for you will never be this age again!”
I’d never thought of birthdays like that. Sure, I know how the calendar works, but I‘d never really considered that we get the privilege of being a certain age for only 12 months. This encouraging note reminded me that I get to decide how I want to spend the next 12 months of my lives.
It’s easy to think of birthdays as a reminder that we’re getting older, but my co-worker’s wise words continue to remind me that we have a role to play in what we do with the days between our birthdays. We can choose to become “old” by complaining that we’re getting old, or we can choose to be grateful for the days we have and get about the business of living them well. It’s absolutely up to us.