“Most of the weakness and frailty we blame on aging is not due to getting older but to inactivity.”
When I read the quote above earlier this week in Dottie’s book titled, “Life is an Attitude: How to Grow Forever Better”, it leapt off the page at me, because I’ve also heard complaints from people recently about the negative impacts of aging. These complaints have come in the form of a frustrated resignation that this deterioration is an inevitable part of aging. I disagree.
Every day we get to choose to either be sedentary or to carve out time in the day to move our bodies. If we choose one day not to move about or exercise, that single day really won’t have an impact on us. However, if we decide day after day not to move or exercise, the compounding of those days over month, years, and decades, will certainly have negative impacts on our physical ability as we age.
Likewise, if we choose to exercise and move every day, the compounding effects of those decisions over months, years, and decades, will have a positive impact on our physical ability in the years to come.
By exercising our bodies (and our minds!) we’re telling ourselves that we need our bodies and minds to be in peak shape, because we plan on using them. Here’s the cool think, when we train our minds and bodies to be ready for use… they respond!
What encourages me most to reject the assumption that we deteriorate as we get older, is that I’ve seen too much evidence to the contrary in the lives of folks that have been around a lot longer than I have.
I encourage you to reject the false assumption that aging is a downward spiral and that after a certain age, you’re washed. That statement is only true if you choose to believe it.
I was talking with some folks this week that mentioned they occasionally have doubt whether they belong in the career position they’re currently in, which they both enjoy. It’s interesting to me how often we doubt our own abilities. Especially when we’re actually doing, and enjoy, the very thing we doubt we can do. Seems kind of funny when you think about that way.
Usually, it’s our own thoughts that cause us to doubt our abilities. Thought like:
I’m not smart enough
I haven’t been doing this very long
I feel like an imposter
Other people could do a much better job than I can
And a zillion other self-defeating thoughts.
Here’s a bit of encouragement for all of us when we begin to doubt our abilities in what we’re doing.
You are currently doing it
You enjoy doing it
You are actively learning and applying yourself to get better…
Then you’re just the right person to be doing what you’re doing.
It’s as simple as that. Sure, you need a basic level of competence. However, there is nowhere that states we’re required to be the smartest person, or to have all the answers before we can hold a position or offer our skills to the world. If you hold a position that you enjoy, and are learning and growing in it, then you belong there.
Now that that’s settled, ditch the doubt and move forward, offering your best to what you do. The world needs what you have to offer.
Four years ago, I began taking lessons to learn the electric bass guitar. I’m sure I could have learned to play the bass by watching youtube videos, but I prefer being able to ask specific questions I’m struggling with to a real person versus a search engine. I also prefer lessons, because the instructor often know things that will be useful that I’m not yet aware of.
For the last couple of weeks, we’ve been learning about now to write melodies. When we first started, I was wondering to myself, “how is this going to help be become a better bass player?” I was really having a hard time connecting the dots between being able to write melodies and being a more skilled bass player.
As we’ve been working on it, I’m seeing how this skill will increase my understanding of music and also help me learn how I can apply this knowledge directly in some of the songs we play on the worship team at church. It’s a skill I likely wouldn’t have pursued, had I not been taking lessons from someone who knows more about music than me.
While youtube and online search results can be useful in helping you learn a new skill, I think the best way to learn, at least for me, is to enlist the help of a good instructor. Someone who has been on the same journey, only much longer than I have, and someone who knows what skills would be valuable, that I may not even be considering.
The next time you’re trying to go beyond the basics of learning a new skill, consider enlisting the help of an instructor. It’s highly probable that you’ll benefit from the knowledge they have that you’re not yet aware of.
Last Saturday we spend a great autumn day in Hood River Oregon. It’s an agriculture-based region on the north side of Mt. Hood known for its apples, pears, and peaches. In addition to the agriculture, it’s a beautiful part of the state, especially in the Fall when the leaves are changing. Throw a clear blue sunny sky in there, (along with my sister and brother in law) and a good thing gets exponentially better!
We’ve been going to Hood River in the fall for several years now, and I never get tired of the area’s natural seasonal beauty. Every year when I see the colors and Mt. Hood’s northern face, I’m awestruck all over again. I can’t imagine a day when that scene would NOT spark my amazement.
I think it’s important continue to be amazed by the beauty around us, even if we’ve seen it many times before. There’s something about a beautiful landscape that, as my wife would say, “fills my bucket”. I’ll never get tired of noticing such scenery.
Be on the lookout for those scenes that amaze you. Whether it’s a landscape, a night sky, a trout stream, or any other scene, it doesn’t really matter. What does matter is that you take the time to stop and notice it, and to remind yourself that you’ll never get tired of experiencing it.