I like being in control. Not in a “control-freakish” kind of way, but being in control of how I respond to events and scenarios I’m presented with every day, instead of automatically reacting.
Just because I like being in control of how I respond doesn’t mean that I always do it as well as would prefer. Unless I’m consciously aware of how I want to respond to life every day, I find it easy to drift along on “mental auto-pilot” and automatically respond to the day’s events without much thought.
I listened to an excellent podcast from Brendon Bruchard this week that discussed how high performers have the habit of deciding in advance how they want to feel during a specific events or scenarios. By defining in advance how we want to feel, we can avoid the feelings (usually negative ones) that automatically will arise.
For example, if we know we’re going to be giving a speech making a presentation to a large group, we may be confronted with fear, but that don’t mean we have to feel afraid. We can decide ahead of time that when we’re confronted with this fear, we will instead choose to feel confident, prepared and capable. We’re not required to feel afraid. We can choose a different feeling.
I think this is a potential life-changing concept that can improve our relationships, careers, and attitudes, which can improve the quality of our lives. All we have to do is be willing to turn of the mental auto-pilot and chose how we’re going to feel.