When I sat down to write this week’s blog, I looked out the office window and I noticed, across the busy 4 lane highway, a Canadian goose lying down in the grass on the other side of the road. I didn’t see any evidence of a nest or eggs, as this goose had gotten up to move to a new position a couple of times, so it was a rather strange site.
As the busy traffic, only a couple of short feet away, whisked by, this goose seemed totally calm, content, and even relaxed. He (or she) is the picture of calm in the midst of a chaotic environment.
The more I watched this silly goose, the more impressed I was with his calm demeanor in his chosen environment. Ultimately, I thought about how I’d like to show the same unshakable calm whenever I find myself in a chaotic or stressful scenario.
I certainly don’t know what my feathered-friend’s secret is, but I do think there are some behaviors we can practice to help us stay calm and in control when things or people around us are not.
- Don’t over-react when the stakes are low. When we’re under pressure, I think we tend to react rather than respond. Reacting is more automatic. Responding involves deciding how we are going answer the situation before us. When we respond we are intentional. If we can train ourselves to respond calmly to small scale events, we will be training ourselves to do likewise when the stakes are higher.
- Maintain the proper perspective. When you’re feeling stressed out or like things are getting chaotic, ask yourself if wigging out is really warranted. With few small exceptions, it’s usually not.
- Practice being calm. Make it a point to spend time every day engaging in calming activities. This could include things like:
- Praying or reading the Bible
- Going for a walk
- Listening to relaxing music
- Having a good conversation with someone you care about
While the list is endless, the point is to make sure we’re doing something calming every day.
This goose’s appearance is very timely, as I’ve been focusing on integrating more calming activities into my own life recently. I’m grateful I got to witness this example.