I’ve been thinking about my goal setting for 2016 and have decided to try something a little different this year. While I will still have goals in the 7 areas of Zig Ziglar’s Wheel of Life, I think I’m going to also adopt some daily behavioral goals that I can focus on every day. Here’s what I’m talking about.
Usually my goals consist of targets that I’m trying to achieve in a month, quarter, or year. That’s good, but I also want to have goals that will help me daily to become more like the person I want to be. For these areas of my life I am putting together behavioral goals that I plan on demonstrating every day.
For example, a behavioral goal I have for the year is to be a more engaging husband. The behaviors for achieving this goal look like one or more of the following:
- I will make sure I’m giving my wife at least 15 uninterrupted minutes every day where I am communicating and giving her my full attention.
- My attitude toward her will be positive and liberally sprinkled with words and actions that show love and acceptance versus judgement and frustration.
- My thoughts toward her will also be positive and I will not expect that her thinking or actions should be the same as mine. See last week’s blog.
When I lay my pillow down at the end of each day, I will easily be able to tell whether or not I achieved my goal of being a more engaged husband. All I have to do is ask whether or not I did one or more of these behaviors today. If the answer is, “Yes”, nice work! I achieved my behavioral goal that day. If the answer is, “No”, then I have an opportunity to do better at it the next day. What’s cool is that even if my answer is, “Yes”, I still have an opportunity to do better the next day!
Daily behavioral goals give you immediate feedback. They can also pave the way for stringing several days of success together, which will ultimately lead to the formation of a good habit. With each good habit we work toward and form, we become more like the person we want to be. We become an even better version of our self.
Are there any behavioral goals you’d like to start working on that will help you form some good habits? I’d suggest starting with just one and focusing on it for several weeks until you start having several days of success, then focus on another behavioral goal. Repeat this process until December 31, 2016, and then on January 1, 2017, begin the process anew.
Use the power of daily behavioral goals to get immediate feedback as you journey toward being the best version of yourself. There’s no need to wait for 1 year to see if you’ll hit your goal. You’ll be able to tell as soon as you go to bed this evening.