It’s easy to complain, and most people don’t need much practice to get good at it. Sometimes complaining to the appropriate people is the right thing to do, like when you receive a bad product or service or experience poor treatment from a merchant. In these circumstances we should complain, but we should always do so respectfully with tact and the right motive.
However, I think we often complain:
- About people or things that have always been the way they are.
- About things we have no intention of changing.
- To any listening ear that is willing to hear us complain.
What good does this do? How does this benefit you? Complaining like this takes away your power to direct the course of your life and instead fosters a victim mentality. Unless complaining sparks action, it serves only to ensure you get more of what you’ve always been getting. It’s also draining to you and others around you of energy and optimism. Worse yet, it signals to others that you’re not a person of action, but merely a chronic complainer.
Instead of just complaining, try taking action that will improve the situation you’re complaining about. Why allow yourself to be just another complaining voice? The next time you find yourself complaining for the wrong reasons, add the following closing statement to the end of your complaint: “…and this is what I’m going to do to make it better…” Then do it!
Try this for the next week and observe the results. At the very least, you’ll most likely gain a great sense of accomplishment and an improved attitude. You’ll also find yourself becoming a person of influence, impact, and action.