When you hear those words, does any specific type or group of people come to mind? Perhaps you think of a high achiever or someone who seems to get things done regardless of their circumstances. For me when I hear those words I think of… babies.
Think about a baby that’s learning to walk. They struggle to stand up, even with the support of a solid object, they wobble around, and they fall down. But what makes me think of babies when I hear those words, is that after each setback or failed attempt, babies get back up and try again.
Once they get it in their mind to start walking, they will not be stopped until they achieve that goal. They don’t quit because it’s hard. They don’t complain because they suck at their first attempts. A baby will repeat the process of getting up and falling down until they have mastered walking.
I stand in awe of the persistence, determination, tenacity, and focus of babies.
Is there any skill you’re currently trying to learn that has you frustrated and wanting to quit? If so, I encourage you to act like a baby and embrace the process of falling down and getting back up to try again.
If a skill we’re trying to learn is truly important to us, we should approach it with the same level of persistence, determination, tenacity, and focus.
May we all be more like babies in this regard.
We should never pursue happiness. That sounds weird to read, and write, but I believe it’s true. I don’t think we should pursue being happy as our primary goal.
I’ve heard people say that they just “want to be happy”, but when questioned, they often lack a plan or any idea how to achieve the happiness they seek.
I think our efforts would be better spent focusing on doing the things that bring happiness. “But wait!” you might be saying. “Isn’t that the same thing as pursuing happiness?” Not really. Here’s why.
Being happy is a byproduct of doing something else. The feeling of being happy follows an action. You don’t just “be happy”. Something comes first; some initial action sparks happiness. The action is the cause, happiness is the effect.
Here’s what this looks like in the real world. If you want to be happy, determine the things that make you happy, and do those things. (The premise I’m working from is that the things that make you happy are good, moral, legal, and will build you up and those around you.) Perhaps being in good physical condition or serving others makes you happy. Maybe something in your career or spending time with family friends or a community you belong to. It might even be using a gift or talent you possess. Most likely there are multiple things you can do that make you happy. Whatever those things are, do them. Don’t avoid them or diminish their importance.
Instead of continuing pursue happiness alone, begin stoking the fire of happiness by taking the actions that cause happiness to follow. When you do, you’ll find that happiness is waiting on the other side.