This week my wife and I have been working on several daily life decisions ranging from getting our next cat, to updating our insurance, to future spending plans. While these topics have created lots of discussion, I have come away feeling extremely grateful that we are both on the same team.
Through all the discussions and decisions we’ve had and made, we’ve both participated with the mindset that we are on the same team and are heading in the same direction… together. I’m reminded this past week how much I appreciate working as a team with her. Even when we have our differences, we understand that we both share the same last name, which makes us a team. We also realize that teams perform better when they work together.
So who’s on your team? How have you been well working with them lately? If you haven’t been performing very well as a team, perhaps it’s time to decide to start rowing in the same direction to achieve your common goals. If your team has been performing well, be sure to let your teammate know how much you appreciate them.
This week I celebrated my 21st wedding anniversary. As I’ve ben thinking back on our 21 years, I’m reminded of the power of a commitment.
Being committed to something is far more powerful than simply being “in” something. When you’re “in” a marriage it implies there’s a way out and that you can give up at any time when things get difficult, boring, or old. There’s really nothing solid keeping you “in”.
However, when you’re committed to something, you’ve decided in advance that there is no getting out when things get tough. Commitment means you’ve already decided that instead of looking for exit strategies, you’ll look for solutions and strategies to successfully overcome issues you face. Difficulty, challenge, or boredom do not signal an upcoming off ramp, but rather remind you it’s time to double-down on your efforts. Why? It’s because you’ve made a commitment to do so.
This is true of commitment to a number of situations, including:
- A marriage
- Mastering a challenging new skill
- Establishing a good habit or replacing a bad one
- Getting in shape
- Achieving a worthwhile goal
- Building a good relationship
- Becoming a person of character and integrity
When you’re committed to something, it changes your vision. You start to see opportunities to do better and overcome obstacles, instead of excuses why can’t. You see the bigger picture you’re striving for instead of the immediate circumstance you may be struggling with. With the vision of commitment, you know where you’re going and more importantly, why.
Are there any areas in your life you need to be committed to, rather than just being “in”? Better yet, are there any areas where you need to recommit to do something you’ve let slide? Spend a few minutes thinking about these questions, and then make, or re-make, any necessary commitments you need to make. Doing so will enable you to start tapping into the power of commitment today.