I was talking with some folks this week that mentioned they occasionally have doubt whether they belong in the career position they’re currently in, which they both enjoy. It’s interesting to me how often we doubt our own abilities. Especially when we’re actually doing, and enjoy, the very thing we doubt we can do. Seems kind of funny when you think about that way.
Usually, it’s our own thoughts that cause us to doubt our abilities. Thought like:
- I’m not smart enough
- I haven’t been doing this very long
- I feel like an imposter
- Other people could do a much better job than I can
- And a zillion other self-defeating thoughts.
Here’s a bit of encouragement for all of us when we begin to doubt our abilities in what we’re doing.
- You are currently doing it
- You enjoy doing it
- You are actively learning and applying yourself to get better…
Then you’re just the right person to be doing what you’re doing.
It’s as simple as that. Sure, you need a basic level of competence. However, there is nowhere that states we’re required to be the smartest person, or to have all the answers before we can hold a position or offer our skills to the world. If you hold a position that you enjoy, and are learning and growing in it, then you belong there.
Now that that’s settled, ditch the doubt and move forward, offering your best to what you do. The world needs what you have to offer.
I was talking with a friend at the gym this week about working from home. While there are a number of positives, the biggest negative for me is not having the face-to-face contact with people. Sure, there are a lot of alternatives, like instant messaging and video calls, but they don’t quite measure up to the experience of an in-person interaction.
My friend agreed, but also mentioned how for her grand kids, video conversations are what they’re use to, and are more common for them than face-to-face conversations. She also mentioned her grandkids are growing up with Face Time and other video chat tools, and see these types of interactions as normal as we would see an in-person visit from our grand parents back in the day.
That was an interesting reminder to me about how differently we all look at the world through the lens of our own experience. What may seem mainstream to me, could be unusual to others, and vice versa. And that’s ok! We all have different life experiences that shape our lenses.
I think it’s important to be mindful f this in our interactions with others. It’s easy to assume everybody sees the world through the same lens as I do, but that’s simply not true. When I take time to listen to others, I gain a better understanding of the lens they view the world through. If I listen close enough, I can even understand how their lens was formed.
I’m thankful we aren’t all the same. While that might make some things easier, it would certainly be less interesting to live in a world where everyone looked through the same lens as me.
I’ve recently finished listening to a couple of audio books that has some “colorful” language sprinkled throughout. Not a big deal. In fact, I use to swear a lot as a teen and young adult. However, now I prefer not having those words in my vocabulary. The just don’t align with how I want to present myself to the world.
While the audio books were extremely interesting, I noticed that they sere influential in ways I hadn’t anticipated.
Since listening to them I’ve found myself muttering expletives under my breath when I get frustrated with something. It was hardly noticeable at first, but I’m noticing it occurring more often. I’m reminded how what we allow into our mind has a way of coming back out in our thoughts, speech and actions., especially when we’re squeezed or under pressure. Therefore, need to be more discerning with regard to the content I’m allowing into my mind.
I like what Philippians 4:8 states,
“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things”
I’m going to focus more on doing this, because I want to make sure what comes out, through my thoughts, speech, or actions, is a positive result of the good things I’ve placed in my mind.
Whenever you’re in a large or small group, professional or volunteer, and the opportunity arises to share your thoughts and opinions, do so!
When we silence our own voice by withholding our thoughts, we willingly hand over the ability to make or influence a decisions to those who do share their thoughts. We trade in our role as leaders and resign ourselves to passengers on a course someone will chart for us.
You have thoughts, insights, and ideas that could benefit those around you. However, they benefit no one, if they remain solely in your head.