This summer the blueberry bushes at my house have been going crazy! We have 3 young bushes and for the past several years they’ve been somewhat light in the production department. This year, however, they seemed to have turned a corner and re producing more berries that we can keep up with. It’s quite a change from years past when they produced only a couple of handfuls per season.
Fortunately, my wife and I were aware that it takes a time for the bushes to mature before they start yielding a large quantity. Therefore, we weren’t mad at the bushes in the early years. We didn’t put the plants in the ground one day and expect a bumper crop the next. We realize that it takes time
These bushes remind me that learning something new also involves a process that takes time. We all know this. Yet we often become frustrated with ourselves when we expect to be further along in the process after only a short time. The best thing we can do when learning a new skill is to realize that it will take time… and to be ok with that. We simply have to put in the effort over time and the results are sure to follow.
Here’s a fun thing you can do to observe the impacts of time on something you’re actively trying to learn. Write yourself an email that will be sent to you one year from today. In that email describe what you’re attempting to lean and the level of skill you currently possess. When you read the email next year, you’ll likely be amazed at how far you’ve come.
“A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt
We often think that learning takes place in a controlled environment like a classroom or an online course. Here, lessons are orderly, information is dispersed, and an opportunity to apply the knowledge we’ve gained is provided. While this is certainly one way to gain knowledge, the best learning and experience is usually gained when the wheels are coming off.
Don’t get me wrong, the base knowledge we gain on a topic from classroom instruction, or in other ideal conditions, is crucial in helping us develop an understanding of our topic of choice. However, when we find ourselves having to apply this knowledge to solve a problem in an uncontrolled setting where conditions are far from ideal, that’s where experience is forged. And that experience is valuable!
Consider the following scenarios:
- Parenting a child through a challenging time or situation
- Restoring a computer network outage that is keeping scores of people from working
- Leading a family or team through an unexpected tragedy
- Running a business during a global pandemic
Problems like these can easily cause us to feel like we’re in over our heads, which may be accurate. What we can do, is take the skills and knowledge we’ve gained to this point and focus it toward solving the problem we’re facing. No, it’s never fun to be in “rough seas”, but if we can see past the storm and be confident in our abilities to apply what we have, we’ll likely come through with a greater depth of experience, and even wisdom, than we possessed before.
Be confident and apply what you’ve learned.
It’s summer in the Pacific Northwest and that means it’s sunny when I wake up! I usually get out of bed around 5:30 AM, and most of the year it’s dark at that time, and depending on the time of year, it can also be rainy as well. Knowing this makes sunny summer morning that much more enjoyable.
Since I’ve started working from home, I’ve been making sure to get out and walk around the neighborhood before work begins. These sun-filled walks get me feeling good and charged up for the day ahead. I’m doing my best to take advantage of these beautiful mornings, knowing that they will soon be replaced by darker and even rainier ones.
My walks are a reminder for me to enjoy what I have while I have it. Before long, the warm sunny mornings will be memories, leaving me eagerly looking forward to the following summer, when they make their splendid return. For now, I’m doing my best to enjoy them while they’re here.
Do you have something in your life that will be, or could potentially be, gone soon? If so, be sure to enjoy it now, while you still have the opportunity. Because once it’s gone, you’ll be glad you did.
Earlier this week I was having a conversation with someone about recent events. At several times during the conversation, I felt like there was a point I could make about what they were saying. Fortunately, I decided not to, and just listened to where they were coming from. In that circumstance, I think I made the right choice.
Speaking from my own observations and experienced, it seems like people are all over the spectrum with regard to what they think, how they’re dealing with the current myriad issues and how they’re being impacted by those issues. There are so many opinions, world-views and stressors on people, and so many different ways people are handling them, that it’s unlikely you’ll find someone on the exact same place on the spectrum as you are. I certainly haven’t. As such, in our effort to make a point, we could easy turn a conversation into a divisive exchange without even meaning to.
I think it would serve us well to know when the time to make a point is, and when it would be more appropriate to compassionately listen to someone in order to better understand where they are coming from.
May we continually be able to discern which response is appropriate for the conversations we find ourselves in.
There’s so much going on in world and the US lately! Compared to what was happening just 6 months ago, it feels like we’ve been transported and dropped off in a whole new world. As a result, there is so much news coming at us every hour (or very often in real time) in an attempt to keep us informed. While it’s good to be informed, it’s not good to be over saturated.
When I watch too much negative news, it starts to impact my attitude and my thinking. It leaves me feeling weighted down. I’m grateful that I know this about myself, so that I can monitor my news intake and stop watching once I’ve been informed, instead of continuing to watching to the point of over saturation. It’s good to know my limit!
Do you know your oversaturation limit for negative news? If not, pay attention to your attitude and outlook based on the amount of news your consuming. If you too find yourself being weighted down by current events, perhaps throttle back on the consumption. Who knows, you might be able to improve your outlook, and free up some time, by watching less news.
I laugh when I look back at things that seemed like such a big deal in the moment, but are soon forgotten. Like the time I tried to put in a sprinkler system in my yard. It seemed so simple and made perfect sense on paper, until I actually set about the task. After renting a ditch witch (that I didn’t even know how to operate) I proceeded to tear up my lawn in a failed attempt to dig trenches for the sprinkler lines. I addition, I also broke off my main water line to the house at the meter while attempting to connect the sprinklers to water. What a mess!
Needless to say, I was pretty anxious and discouraged in that moment, and for several moments beyond. I had a hard time seeing past the big expensive-looking mistake I had just made and was worrying about I would get it corrected.
Fortunately, I was able to get things rectified. The plumber came out and fixed the main water line, and a local landscaper came out and took over where I left off. Never before have I been happier to pay for someone’s services! Everything worked out, and before long, my discouragement and frustration were a distant memory.
I think back to my sprinkler event whenever I find myself experiencing a similar “adventure”. This memory is important in that it helps me not to become anxious or fall into needless worry. When I think back now about how much worrying I did over the sprinkler situation, it seems like such a waste of time. I don’t want to waste time like that because it doesn’t achieve anything. Mathew 6:27 sums it up well for me, “Can anyone of you, by worrying, add a single hour to your life?” I know I can’t.
Dale Carnegie also has several good thoughts on worrying. One of my favorites is, “Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth and refuse to give it more.” I like the premise in this statement that we decide how much anxiety or worry we give something, and we can choose to give it less.
I hope you’ve got some “adventures” of your own, where in the moment they seemed like such a big deal, but after you worked through them, you now wonder why you worried so much. If you do, use those memories to help regulate your anxiety when the next adventure occurs. We’ve got better things to do with our lives besides parking in worry’s driveway.
This week a good friend from church told me that they’ll be moving to another state to restore an old house they’ll be living in. This friend has a real knack for restoration, interior design, and overall leaving the world better than they found it, so I’m super excited for this adventure of theirs.
I’ve been thinking of the years we’ve spent together in the same Sunday school class, the fun we’ve had playing in the worship band, and the great conversations we’ve had over the years. I also remember the often-spoken kind and encouraging words from this friend that have been a source of joy and comfort as we’ve traveled life together for several years.
There’s a song I’ve heard recently by country singer Brad Paisley titled, “Last Time for Everything”. It’s about how good things transition away, and as they go, you experience them for the last time. This song, and my friend’s move, again remind me that we’re to enjoy the people, places, things, and even the time of life we’re currently in, while we have it, because things transition.
I’m certain my friend and I will continue to stay in touch and will no doubt see each other again in the future. And I’m also reminded that while good things transition out of our life, just as often, equally good things transition in.
Earlier this week I had a video visit with my primary care provider. Nothing major, just a follow up from a previous annual visit. I really like my doctor and as he was talking to me, I was extremely grateful to have him to help me navigate the healthcare world when I need it. I am grateful to have him on my team.
We all have a team. Our team are those people we seek out when we need advice or guidance in an area where we are not very skilled or familiar with, or they’re those people we regularly visit to make sure we’re on the right path. A team can consist of such things as a:
- Doctor or dentist
- Financial planner
- Trusted mechanic
- Personal trainer
One thing that is nice about our team is that we get the privilege of picking who is on them. As such, we should be looking for specific attributes when we’re looking for someone to join our team. For example, what I especially appreciate about my doctor is that he takes the time to teach me about the concepts he’s talking to me about in a way that I can understand. He doesn’t dump a bunch of jargon on me that I’m not familiar with, and then get frustrated that I don’t understand what he’s trying to tell me. He actually teaches me. I come away from my visits with him knowing more than I did when I arrived.
I also appreciate that he asks me if I have any questions. He’s not an information dump truck that quickly dumps a pile of information on me and drives off. He wants to make sure that I leave with my questions answered, versus making sure that I just leave.
The next time you’re seeking to add someone to your team, do your homework. Make sure they have the attributes you’re looking from someone who will influence your decision making in a certain area of your life. And if you have someone on your team that doesn’t have the attributes you’re looking for, perhaps it’s time to consider replacing them. It’s your team. Fill it accordingly.
When you hear a discouraging word or someone says something false or unkind about you, remember this: those words only have the meaning you give them.
Unkind thoughts, words, or opinions of others are not an indictment or sentence someone else gets to place on you. You are the one who decides what meaning, if any at all you give to those words. If someone says that you’re, say, selfish, and you’re clearly not, you don’t have to be negatively impacted by theirs words or opinion. You can decide that those words don’t ring true about you, and therefore have no meaning for you. You are then free to let those words go and not carry them around with you.
If perhaps, in this scenario, you realize that you are indeed selfish, the meaning you give those words may be along the lines of agreement and that this is an area you’re going to seek to better yourself. A rebuke of who you are is not the meaning you give them, but rather it’s a picture of something you’d like (you decide) to change about yourself.
We can also give positive meaning to words of encouragement or affirmation. We can take these words to mean that we’re on track to being the person we’d like to become.
We are the ones who get to decide the meaning we give something. It is not placed on us by others but determined by us alone. What a privilege!
“Make every minute two: one to experience it, one to savor it.” ~Neal Peart
“Your gonna miss this. You’re gonna want this back. You’re gonna wish these days hadn’t gone by so fast.” ~Trace Atkins – You’re Gonna Miss This
I’ve been thinking about the passing of time lately. Isn’t it amazing how quickly it goes by? Consider the following scenarios:
You plan a vacation and eagerly look forward to it. Before you know it, you’re actually experiencing it. Then, almost overnight, it seems, the trip is a 5-year-old memory.
You and your new spouse are just starting your lives together. You’ve got nothing but dreams for the future that you’re excitedly anticipating. You can hardly wait to move from your current situation to the life you envision. Before you know it, you’ve realized some of your dreams and you’re looking back at where you started with 2 thoughts:
- That went fast!
- Those were some good times!
Time’s march, at a 24-hour cadence, is steady and brisk. When I was in basic training for the Army National Guard (several decades ago! Like it was yesterday.) I was amazed at how slow each single day went, yet how fast the weeks and months seemed to fly by.
This steady cadence reminds me to take time to enjoy the experiences I’m having as I’m having them because they’ll be memories (and soon old memories) before I know it.
Let’s make sure to makes sure to not only experience our moments, but to savor them as well. They go so fast that it would be worth stretching them out as much as we can.