“Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken.” Warren Buffett
Habits are fascinating, because despite the fact that they are small, they can be extremely powerful. Their power comes from the compounding effect they have when done over long periods of time.
Some habits taken conscious effort to do, like deciding to get up every morning and go to the gym. Yet other habits are so easy to fall into, that they almost become an automatic part of our daily life. Things like drinking several sodas or going out for fast food on a daily basis. (There are a zillion others, but those are the first 2 that came to mind.) These habits are rewarding in the moment, and thus easy to form. And while an occasional soda or trip to McDonald’s isn’t terrible, the impact of these habits done continuously over years, if not decades, can have severe negative consequences.
For this reason, I think it’s important to regularly determine whether we’ve developed any habits that have the potential to plant land mines for our future selves. We should ask ourselves:
- Are the habits we’re engaged in healthy or destructive?
- Are they leading to a good outcome or a potentially dangerous one?
- Are there habits we should stop doing?
- Are there habits we need to cultivate?
We all want good outcomes in our lives, but as we know, they don’t just happen. They require action from us, as well as reflection, to determine if our habits will take us where we want to go.
With 2021 approaching, now would be a good time to take an inventory of the habits we’ve acquired. It might be time to say, “Good-bye” to some potentially destructive ones we’ve been heretofore traveling with. It may also be time to say, “Hello” to some new productive habits and invite them to join us on our journey forward.
There’s a lot of talk currently about how divided we are in the US. While I think that’s true, I also think there is a lot that still unites us.
Consider the following things that still unite us with other people:
- Church and religious beliefs
- Places we work
- Clubs and affinity groups
- Colleges and universities we’ve attended
- Civic groups
- Volunteer organizations
- Common goals
- Common experiences
- Countries or states of origin
That’s a good, yet incomplete list! We don’t realize all the things that bring unity until we pause long enough to consider them. I’m encouraged by such list.
Unity doesn’t mean “in total agreement with”. In fact, we can have unity with someone, even when we don’t agree with them. For example, you can disagree with a relative, yet still have unity with them as a member of your family.
Disagreeing, or having differing viewpoints, with someone doesn’t mean we can’t have unity with them. We’re not required to hate someone and treat them poorly, simply because we don’t agree with them on a specific topc. Why would we sacrifice unity on the altar of disagreement? Why would we throw out a relationship simply because of differing viewpoint or opinion? That seems wasteful to me.
When you have a disagreement with a friend, family member, or someone you currently have unity with, remember that you can still be united, even amidst differing opinions or viewpoints.
Unity and disagreement are not mutually exclusive.
I’ve really been enjoying summer this year, which seems odd due to this being the Summer of COVID. Like many people, I’ve been working from home since late March, so my morning commute has morphed from a 20-minute drive into a walk through the neighborhood with my wife. It’s been great!
I’m sure I’ve mentioned this before, but I love early sunny mornings in the summer. The bright, calm, cool skies, coupled with the quiet, slow pace that exists before the world starts to wake up and get busy, is one of my favorite parts of summer.
As September has arrived, I am keenly aware that these beautiful mornings will soon give way to the gray, cold, rainy events that describe many late fall and winter mornings in the Pacific Northwest. This certainty fills me with a sense of urgency to take advantage of these sunny mornings as much as I can before they’re gone for the season. I don’t want to waste a single remaining morning, because as soon as rainy mornings are the norm, I’ll wish I had taken advantage of any sunny mornings I might have squandered in the summer.
Therefore, my plan is to enjoy them as much as I can while I still have them. I want to look back on them this fall and winter with the satisfied feeling that comes from knowing I appreciated what I had when I had it.
Is there anything currently in your life that will soon be gone, either for a season or for good? If so, enjoy it while you have it.
Last week my wife and I spent an evening at Crater Lake National Park. While the deep blue water of the lake is reason enough to visit, I was there primarily for the clear, dark, moonless sky that would prove ideal for stargazing. (The sunset and following sunrise were a delightful bonus!) Seeing the Milky Way over Crater Lake was an Oregon bucket list item I was looking forward to checking off.
Wile we were at an overlook on the east side of the lake, with our picnic dinner watching the sunset, we met a guy named Aaron from Columbus Ohio that was traveling through Oregon after a recent business trip. He was telling us that he and his wife were eager to move out to Oregon after some family obligations that wee keeping them in Ohio.
We continued taking as the sun set, until finally the darkened sky revealed the Milky Way that stretched overhead from north to south. It was absolutely beautiful.
The three of us took turns pointing out satellites, and shooting starts and unanimously agreeing that this was awesome.
It was awesome, and not just the starts. I think it was awesome that even during this season of so much division and turmoil in our country and world, my wife and I could share such a cool experience with someone who, hours before was a stranger, but someone who left as a friend.
May we all be on the lookout for opportunities to share a kind word, friendly conversation, or cool experience with those around us.
For about 2.5 decades I’ve had this recurring interest in Bonsai trees. I’m intrigued by their shape and diminutive size and how you can shape them and train them to get the look you’re after. I’ve always thought, “that would be fun to get into”, but I never have… until now.
A few weeks ago, I began thinking about Bonsais again, only this time I caused something to happen. I watched a video of Bonsai expert Peter Chang pruning an Alberta Spruce from a nursery. That caused me to go to the library and checkout (and read!) some books on Bonsai. That caused me to run down to a local nursery and pick up a small juniper that I will shape and train into a beautiful Bonsai tree. I’m finally getting into Bonsai!
This week I was reminded that, if we are interested in a desired result, how important it is to cause something to happen toward that end. The video lead to the books, which lead to purchasing a small plant I will shape and pot. It isn’t until we take action that will cause something to happen that things actually start happening.
So, what do you need to cause to happen?
This summer the blueberry bushes at my house have been going crazy! We have 3 young bushes and for the past several years they’ve been somewhat light in the production department. This year, however, they seemed to have turned a corner and re producing more berries that we can keep up with. It’s quite a change from years past when they produced only a couple of handfuls per season.
Fortunately, my wife and I were aware that it takes a time for the bushes to mature before they start yielding a large quantity. Therefore, we weren’t mad at the bushes in the early years. We didn’t put the plants in the ground one day and expect a bumper crop the next. We realize that it takes time
These bushes remind me that learning something new also involves a process that takes time. We all know this. Yet we often become frustrated with ourselves when we expect to be further along in the process after only a short time. The best thing we can do when learning a new skill is to realize that it will take time… and to be ok with that. We simply have to put in the effort over time and the results are sure to follow.
Here’s a fun thing you can do to observe the impacts of time on something you’re actively trying to learn. Write yourself an email that will be sent to you one year from today. In that email describe what you’re attempting to lean and the level of skill you currently possess. When you read the email next year, you’ll likely be amazed at how far you’ve come.
Earlier this week I was having a conversation with someone about recent events. At several times during the conversation, I felt like there was a point I could make about what they were saying. Fortunately, I decided not to, and just listened to where they were coming from. In that circumstance, I think I made the right choice.
Speaking from my own observations and experienced, it seems like people are all over the spectrum with regard to what they think, how they’re dealing with the current myriad issues and how they’re being impacted by those issues. There are so many opinions, world-views and stressors on people, and so many different ways people are handling them, that it’s unlikely you’ll find someone on the exact same place on the spectrum as you are. I certainly haven’t. As such, in our effort to make a point, we could easy turn a conversation into a divisive exchange without even meaning to.
I think it would serve us well to know when the time to make a point is, and when it would be more appropriate to compassionately listen to someone in order to better understand where they are coming from.
May we continually be able to discern which response is appropriate for the conversations we find ourselves in.
There’s so much going on in world and the US lately! Compared to what was happening just 6 months ago, it feels like we’ve been transported and dropped off in a whole new world. As a result, there is so much news coming at us every hour (or very often in real time) in an attempt to keep us informed. While it’s good to be informed, it’s not good to be over saturated.
When I watch too much negative news, it starts to impact my attitude and my thinking. It leaves me feeling weighted down. I’m grateful that I know this about myself, so that I can monitor my news intake and stop watching once I’ve been informed, instead of continuing to watching to the point of over saturation. It’s good to know my limit!
Do you know your oversaturation limit for negative news? If not, pay attention to your attitude and outlook based on the amount of news your consuming. If you too find yourself being weighted down by current events, perhaps throttle back on the consumption. Who knows, you might be able to improve your outlook, and free up some time, by watching less news.
This week a good friend from church told me that they’ll be moving to another state to restore an old house they’ll be living in. This friend has a real knack for restoration, interior design, and overall leaving the world better than they found it, so I’m super excited for this adventure of theirs.
I’ve been thinking of the years we’ve spent together in the same Sunday school class, the fun we’ve had playing in the worship band, and the great conversations we’ve had over the years. I also remember the often-spoken kind and encouraging words from this friend that have been a source of joy and comfort as we’ve traveled life together for several years.
There’s a song I’ve heard recently by country singer Brad Paisley titled, “Last Time for Everything”. It’s about how good things transition away, and as they go, you experience them for the last time. This song, and my friend’s move, again remind me that we’re to enjoy the people, places, things, and even the time of life we’re currently in, while we have it, because things transition.
I’m certain my friend and I will continue to stay in touch and will no doubt see each other again in the future. And I’m also reminded that while good things transition out of our life, just as often, equally good things transition in.
Earlier this week I had a video visit with my primary care provider. Nothing major, just a follow up from a previous annual visit. I really like my doctor and as he was talking to me, I was extremely grateful to have him to help me navigate the healthcare world when I need it. I am grateful to have him on my team.
We all have a team. Our team are those people we seek out when we need advice or guidance in an area where we are not very skilled or familiar with, or they’re those people we regularly visit to make sure we’re on the right path. A team can consist of such things as a:
- Doctor or dentist
- Financial planner
- Trusted mechanic
- Personal trainer
One thing that is nice about our team is that we get the privilege of picking who is on them. As such, we should be looking for specific attributes when we’re looking for someone to join our team. For example, what I especially appreciate about my doctor is that he takes the time to teach me about the concepts he’s talking to me about in a way that I can understand. He doesn’t dump a bunch of jargon on me that I’m not familiar with, and then get frustrated that I don’t understand what he’s trying to tell me. He actually teaches me. I come away from my visits with him knowing more than I did when I arrived.
I also appreciate that he asks me if I have any questions. He’s not an information dump truck that quickly dumps a pile of information on me and drives off. He wants to make sure that I leave with my questions answered, versus making sure that I just leave.
The next time you’re seeking to add someone to your team, do your homework. Make sure they have the attributes you’re looking from someone who will influence your decision making in a certain area of your life. And if you have someone on your team that doesn’t have the attributes you’re looking for, perhaps it’s time to consider replacing them. It’s your team. Fill it accordingly.