One thing I’ve noticed playing the bass guitar for the last 5 years is that improvement takes effort. I don’t get better because I’ve been playing for a certain amount of time. I get better when I focus my efforts, and actually put in the time practicing. There is no short cut or hack to bypass this step, unless my destination is mediocrity.
That last sentence sounded a little harsh, but it’s true, and not just with bass guitar, but with anything we want to improve at. Whether it’s communicating better with others, or improving our performance in a specific area, focused effort and time is the path to success.
Is there an area of your life where you’d like to see improvement? If so, focused effort and time (along with the proper knowledge) is likely the path to seeing the improvement you desire.
Have you ever learned of a situation and reacted to it without exploring it further, only to find out that you would have been better served had you taken a moment to get your facts straight first? Yeah, me too! In fact, that happened to me just last weekend.
It’s so easy to get a partial story and immediately complete the rest of the story in our heads. And it happens surprisingly fast too! However, it usually doesn’t take that long to validate whether the story we’re telling ourselves is actually true.
What I learned from last weekend was that I need to slow down and realize when I’m filling in my own details to a partial story I’ve been given. Once I realize that I’m making assumptions, I need to do the work to determine whether they are true or not.
It’s a waste of time to react to a something that may not even be accurate. Let’s commit to not wasting any more time reacting to our own assumptions, but instead make sure our facts are straight before we chart a course of action. We’ll be better positioned to respond appropriately when we have a clear understanding of the scenario we’re dealing with.
I had a COVID booster this week that has left me feeling rather crummy. I’m
coughing and just feeling generally worn out. Although I’m starting to feel
better, I must admit that I had thoughts of skipping my blog post this week.
I must say that I presented myself with some very compelling arguments in
favor of skipping this week.Excuses
·I’d really just like to be done right now.
·It won’t matter if I skip one week.
·No one is going to mind, or probably even
I just about sold myself on the decision to skip think week, when I had the
following 2 thoughts:
·You are a person who takes time to think of a
topic every week and commit it to writing.
·Extraordinary people do those things the other
people would rather not do.Like writing
a blog post when they don’t feel well.
All my arguments against writing would have been valid, but I’m more
concerned in becoming the person I want to be rather than gaining a few extra
moments of comfort.
So here’s this week’s post.I hope
you enjoyed it.J
I’ve been noticing the past couple of weeks that I have a habit of reading through email and texts rather quickly. As a result, I’ve also noticed that I often miss keep points or specific words within the messages. Sometimes, this causes me to have a different interpretation of the message than what the sender intended.
We all get a lot of email, texts, notifications, and other forms of media vying for our attention, and we need a way to get through them quickly. However, what I’m starting to work on is slowing down a little when I get messages from those closest to me. I want to make sure that I’m understanding what they’re communicating to me, versus getting it wrong because I was in a hurry.
If someone is important to me, and they took the time to send me a text or email, I need to honor them by making sure I understand what they’re telling me.
This week’s post is primarily a reminder for me to put into action what I learn.
During my electric bass lesson this week, I learned a new concept that appears to have some very practical application when I play on our worship team at church. Now that I’ve gained this new knowledge, I have a choice: I can either apply it, or forget it.
It seems like such a silly choice, doesn’t it? “Of course, I’ll apply it!” is the response I tell myself. However, I am surprised how often a good intention to apply newly acquired knowledge can be tossed aside when we get busy, or in some cases, just plain lazy.
It takes effort to apply a new skill, yet it also takes effort to learn a new skill as well. If I’m going to put forth the effort to learn something new, I need to follow through with the effort to apply that knowledge as well. Otherwise, I’m just wasting my time.
So, let’s get out there (still talking to myself here, but feel free to follow along, if this is applicable to you) and start putting our knowledge into action. New levels await!
Lately, I’ve been reminded of the obvious truth that the success and happiness we experience in life is largely due to do with how well we are able to get along with other people.
This truth reminds me that how I treat people and interact with them matters. If I want assistance, kindness, or grace from others, then I need to offer these things to those around me.
It seems to me, from my experience on both the giving and receiving end, that life is much better when I’m getting along with fellow-Earthly-travelers, than when I lead with demanding my own way, or thinking that the world revolves around me. It has been proven multiple times, that the world, indeed, does NOT revolve around me, or any other single person.
Getting along with others doesn’t mean that I default to capitulating what I want or need, simply for the sake of getting along. Rather, I see it as being considerate of the needs of others, in addition to my own needs.
Isn’t that what we all want: for others to be considerate of us? If that’s the case, let’s make sure we’re doing likewise for others.
Last Friday evening, my wife and I were on a flight back from a week-long vacation in Boston, when I noticed the shape of a large man walking down the aisle. As I looked up from my book, I was surprised, and captivated, by the scene I saw.
Securely cradled in this man’s arms was a 1-year-old baby boy (I talked to the man later, and he told me the boy’s age) who was sound asleep. This dad was walking up and down the aisle of the airplane gently bouncing and rocking his sleeping son, in an effort to keep him soothed and comfortably asleep. From the baby’s contentedly limp posture, I’d say this dad was doing an excellent job!
After watching this scene for several minutes, I nudged my wife and pointed out the scene to her. After she saw it, I leaned over and said, “That’s the most beautiful thing I’ve seen all week.”
I’m always impressed by dads that are engaged in the lives of their young children. We all hear stories of dead-beat dads or absentee fathers, so I’m especially awestruck when I see a dad who is shattering these aforementioned sub-par pictures of fatherhood.
Here’s to all you dads out there who are actively and positively engaged in raising your kids. Your children are blessed call you dad.
My wife and I just got back from a week-long trip to Boston. We went with some friends to explore the town and learn more about ta place none of us had ever spent much time, but that all of us were eager to visit.
What always strikes me when we go on a trip or adventure is how it would never have occurred without some prior planning and forethought. Think about it, you can have an adventure in mind, but without taking the steps to cause it to happen, it will remain an unfulfilled dream. Our action is what transforms a dream into reality.
How cool that in order for much of our dreams to be realized, we simply need to put forth the effort required to bring them about. The other side of that coin is that it is sad that we are often the ones standing in the way of our dreams, simply because we fail to take action.
What adventure are you dreaming of? Take steps today to begin causing the dreams you have to happen. Your future self will thank you for the memories
Have you ever heard anyone say, “I don’t trust anyone!”? Have you ever said that yourself? That comment makes me laugh, because each one of us puts our trust into others more than we realize.
For example, we trust that:
Cooks and staff at the restaurants we eat in are observing the proper health and safety procedures related to food storage, handling, and preparation
Letter carriers will deliver a correspondence you drop in the mail in an accurate and timely fashion
Gas pumps actually pump the type and grade of gasoline listed on the pump, versus diesel, water, or some liquid other that what the pump says.
Other drivers will stop when a traffic light is red, go when it’s green, and drive the proper direction in traffic, rather than just going whichever direction in whichever lane they feel like.
In all these examples, and hundreds of other daily scenarios, we are counting on others to be trustworthy. This thought reminds me that others are expecting us to be trustworthy as well. Let’s live in a way that the trust others have in us is well-placed.
On June 11th, I wrote a post titled, “Simply Reconnecting”. At the end of the post, I mentioned that I was going to reconnect with my friend Dave. Well, a couple of days ago, we got together for a visit. We met at 3:30 in the afternoon and we didn’t say “good bye”, until just before 10:00 PM. The time flew by.
I hadn’t seen Dave for 6 years, but as soon as we sat down, we picked up right where we left off. It was so much fun to reconnect and catch up on what we’ve each been up to. At one point, Dave was talking about how much he enjoys observing someone who is excellent at what they do, regardless of their occupation. At that point, I thought to myself, “That’s why I like Dave. He’s my kind of person”.
If you have a friend you’ve been meaning to get in touch with, I’d recommend you do that immediately. While there’s nothing to be gained by waiting, there is tremendous blessing in connecting today.