Lately, I’ve been reminded of the obvious truth that the success and happiness we experience in life is largely due to do with how well we are able to get along with other people.
This truth reminds me that how I treat people and interact with them matters. If I want assistance, kindness, or grace from others, then I need to offer these things to those around me.
It seems to me, from my experience on both the giving and receiving end, that life is much better when I’m getting along with fellow-Earthly-travelers, than when I lead with demanding my own way, or thinking that the world revolves around me. It has been proven multiple times, that the world, indeed, does NOT revolve around me, or any other single person.
Getting along with others doesn’t mean that I default to capitulating what I want or need, simply for the sake of getting along. Rather, I see it as being considerate of the needs of others, in addition to my own needs.
Isn’t that what we all want: for others to be considerate of us? If that’s the case, let’s make sure we’re doing likewise for others.
My wife and I just got back from a week-long trip to Boston. We went with some friends to explore the town and learn more about ta place none of us had ever spent much time, but that all of us were eager to visit.
What always strikes me when we go on a trip or adventure is how it would never have occurred without some prior planning and forethought. Think about it, you can have an adventure in mind, but without taking the steps to cause it to happen, it will remain an unfulfilled dream. Our action is what transforms a dream into reality.
How cool that in order for much of our dreams to be realized, we simply need to put forth the effort required to bring them about. The other side of that coin is that it is sad that we are often the ones standing in the way of our dreams, simply because we fail to take action.
What adventure are you dreaming of? Take steps today to begin causing the dreams you have to happen. Your future self will thank you for the memories
One of my favorite books in the Bible is James. What I love most about it is that it is filled with hard-hitting, non-sugar-coated truth. My favorite verse in this book is 1:22 where the author states, “Don’t merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says”. This is a verse I often read as if James was speaking these words directly to me.
It’s easy to gain knowledge about how we SHOULD be behaving. It’s quite another thing to take the knowledge we gain, and parlay it into action. What good does it do to gain a bunch of knowledge that is beneficial to us, yet fail to put that knowledge into action? If we spend a significant period of time (months, years, decades, a lifetime) we’ll wind up being nothing more than a bunch of over-educated under-achievers.
Here’s a good question for all of us: Is there some knowledge that I have that I need to put into action in order to see positive results? If the answer is, “Yes” (which I’m sure it is for most of us), then take a small step today to begin putting that knowledge into action. Because there’s a big difference between knowing and doing. Knowing = knowledge. Doing = results.
You choose the legacy you leave behind by the impact you have on people today. The impact your life has on others is what forms your legacy, and your legacy is being formed every day.
So, what kind of legacy are you in the process of leaving?
In the last couple of weeks, I’ve had some really nice encounters with friends I haven’t seen in a few years. It reminds me how quick time goes and how easy it is to lose touch with someone. It also reminds me that it’s also easy to reconnect.
My friend Bob, that I used to work with several years ago, reached out via email earlier this week to see if my email address was still good and what I was up to. Per Bob’s suggestion, we’ll be meeting up for lunch next week to reconnect and catch up. I really admire Bob’s initiative to simply send an email suggest going to lunch. I’m so grateful that he did, and I can’t wait to see him.
Bob’s initiative got me thinking who I should reach out to and reconnect. Perhaps his initiative has you thinking about a friend you’ve lost touch with that you can reconnect with too. I encourage you to do like Bob did and simply send an email or make a phone call and reconnect.
I’ll be following Bob’s lead and texting my friend Dave after I submit this post. It will be good to reconnect with him too.
“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” ~Dr. Seuss
I came across this quote last week and it’s such a great reminder about perspective and also about how to handle ending. Since endings are a part of every life, it feels that this quote from Dr. Seuss is applicable for all of us.
There are a number of things that come to an end:
- A season of life
- An event
- A place we enjoy visiting
- A business we enjoy frequenting
- A friendship
- A life
To be clear, some of the endings on this list are more impactful than others, and deserve tears as part of the healing process. That said, I think that remembering the experience or the person lost with smile, and gratitude for the experience, helps us move forward in away that allows us to remain open to new people and experiences yet to come. What a shame it would be to close ourselves off to trying new things or getting close to people because we are afraid of the tears that may come with loss.
Dr. Seuss’s quote also reminds me that I don’t have to wait until something is over to smile about it. I can do so even while it’s happening. 😊
On Wednesday, my wife informed me that the place we board our cats when we travel will be closing down. This is a bummer for us, because we really enjoyed this place. Whenever we dropped our cats off, we never worried about them because they received excellent care, and were always in great shape when we returned. We will miss this place.
Again, I’m reminded of the importance of appreciating those things (and people) we enjoy while we have them, because so often things change, and they’re gone.
Be on the look out for those things you currently enjoy and look upon them with gratitude and thanksgiving, while you still have them. And remember, while change can be sad or frustrating, it is also the vehicle by which exciting new things come into our lives.
Disciplined behavior in the moment can be challenging when we’re trying to achieve a goal. Whether it’s fitness, good health, financial, relational, or any other long-term goal, it’s easy to get knocked off track in the moment. What I’ve found helpful for staying disciplined toward the pursuit of a goal is to play the long game.
By that, I mean to look way into the future to what achieving this goal looks like. For example, I want to live a healthy life. That goal is way too vague to withstand the temptations (like ice cream!) that that present themselves on a daily basis that are perpendicular to my goal. Instead, I frame my goal with a bent toward that future. Rather than having a goal to “live a healthy lifestyle”, I have a goal to be an active, engaged, curious, ninety-year-old who is in excellent physical condition.
I’m playing the long game by focusing on the person I want to become when I turn 90. This focus helps me consider my choice on a daily, monthly, weekly, and yearly basis. The question I present myself with is, “are the choices I’m making (in relation to diet, finances, relationships, intellectual development, and spiritual growth) or have been making, leading me closer to or further from the person I want to be in my 90s”? If the answer is, “Yes”, I move keep making those choices. If my answer is “No”, then I consider modifying my behavior.
Playing the long game helps give my life daily direction. I know where I want to go, so all I need to do now is make sure my choices are taking there.
What do you want more of in your life? Maybe it’s peace or joy. Perhaps you’d like better health or more close relationships. Whatever it is that you want more of, get a picture of what that looks like, because you’re going to need that picture for the next paragraph.
Do you have that picture of what more of whatever you decided you want in your life looks like? Good! Now, today, take the first step, no matter how small, that causes that picture to become more of a reality in your life. Then tomorrow, take the next step, and likewise the day after that and beyond.
Without a change, we’ll continue getting more of the same, which can be good if you’re actively moving toward something you want. If, however, there’s something more you want, you’re only a few small steps away from heading in that direction.
One reason I think life is so interesting is that there is so much to learn and improve at. From our skills in the workplace, to hobbies and interests, to character improvements, to relational skills and even spiritual growth, we have a neve-ending source of areas where we can improve. And while I am energized by this thought, at times, I also find it rather frustrating.
The source of this frustration, for me, comes when the improvement happens slower than I would like. Yes, I know improvement takes time, but still, I often wish it came a little (or a lot!) quicker.
That’s why the following comment I read last week resonated so much with me. It said,
“We change not in giant leaps, but one small step at a time. Your have the rest of your life, so be patient with yourself.”
I love this statement because it reminds me that my real goal in life is continuous improvement versus being an unachievable form of perfect right now. It also reminds me that progress adds up over time. Therefore, if I’m a life-long learner, which I am, I’ve got a lifetime to get better.
That thought is a good antidote for alleviating my frustration at a perceived slow rate of progress. All I really need to do is continue making small steps forward.